Yes man!

I got an email the other day. The subject was "communication".
So I thought it was quite fitting for this blog.

The email said the following:

Communication is a term that is used to express the dialogue and understanding between people. There is definitely an art to this. It's not just what we say but how, and when, we say it. We need to be sensitive as to how our words are being interpreted. And communication is reciprocal, it is both giving and receiving. When we speak we are giving information, and receiving someone's attention. When we listen we are receiving information and giving our attention.
-Lissa Coffey

I’m pretty sure I talked about that in my first entry. Communicating involves more than just the words being said. It also involves one’s body language, and the way things are said. There’s a movie scene that comes to my mind right now, it’s from Yes Man. Jim Carrey has to say yes to every opportunity that arises no matter what it is. This one particular scene he’s with his girlfriend, Zooey Deschannel, and she asked him to move in with her when they got back from their trip they went on. He knew he had to say yes, but wasn’t really sure if he was ready for all of that because of his past relationship. After he paused a little he said yes, but she knew he didn’t want to cause he hesitated. He told her to ask him again and before she could finish asking him to move in, he said yes.

So my point of that was that she could tell he wasn’t ready for it yet because he took to long to answer, even though it was a second or two only, things would have been different if he really wanted to live with her. And didn’t pause, or interrupt her when she asked. There’s just the right amount of time between questions and answers, I think.

It also reminds me of the atomic/serpentine model, because Jim has so many other things going on, and that was why he did that. Besides previously vows to saying yes to everything, he also had been depressed because of a divorce and he was worried something like that might happen again if he did move in with her – (Zooey and Jim) only knew each other for a short time.



Also, I was looking at some of the other student’s blogs and it reminded me of something I wanted to complain about before. I hate when people walk by me and say “Hey what’s up?” and continue walking. How am I supposed to answer your question when we’re walking in different directions? I always get really uncomfortable when I’m in that situation. If I have time, since I actually care how people are doing, I’ll stop and tell them “what’s up” in my life, and ask them the same. Most of the time people are already away from me by the time their done saying it. For the most part I just say hey or smile when I’m asked that. I know you don’t care. And I understand that’s how people great each other nowadays, but I can’t stand it sometimes.
Just like I get oddly uncomfortable when people write using letters and numbers like “talk 2 u l8r” and all that fun stuff. I did that when I was in middle school, and a few times later on, but that was jokingly. Like…. HW^IAWRN… and then your like WTF? cause it makes no sense! But it means Hey What’s Up(^) I’m At Work Right Now.

WTF. LOL. FML. - Those kind I’m fine with. But when people write like their texting at all times I just think, are you serious? People turned in reports to teachers with there online/texting language that's not right for real work.
I think its funny that my mom texts like that though. “Did U call UR Bro” for example would be the way she would text that, but if it were me I’d say “Did you call your brother?” I don’t know why I do that, but I don’t shorten my texts unless I really have to. I guess that’s why I've gone over my texting limit before though. But now I have unlimited texting, so I do my best to use correct grammar and proper punctuation even in my texting.