I got an email the other day. The subject was "communication".
So I thought it was quite fitting for this blog.
The email said the following:
Communication is a term that is used to express the dialogue and understanding between people. There is definitely an art to this. It's not just what we say but how, and when, we say it. We need to be sensitive as to how our words are being interpreted. And communication is reciprocal, it is both giving and receiving. When we speak we are giving information, and receiving someone's attention. When we listen we are receiving information and giving our attention.
-Lissa Coffey
I’m pretty sure I talked about that in my first entry. Communicating involves more than just the words being said. It also involves one’s body language, and the way things are said. There’s a movie scene that comes to my mind right now, it’s from Yes Man. Jim Carrey has to say yes to every opportunity that arises no matter what it is. This one particular scene he’s with his girlfriend, Zooey Deschannel, and she asked him to move in with her when they got back from their trip they went on. He knew he had to say yes, but wasn’t really sure if he was ready for all of that because of his past relationship. After he paused a little he said yes, but she knew he didn’t want to cause he hesitated. He told her to ask him again and before she could finish asking him to move in, he said yes.
So my point of that was that she could tell he wasn’t ready for it yet because he took to long to answer, even though it was a second or two only, things would have been different if he really wanted to live with her. And didn’t pause, or interrupt her when she asked. There’s just the right amount of time between questions and answers, I think.
It also reminds me of the atomic/serpentine model, because Jim has so many other things going on, and that was why he did that. Besides previously vows to saying yes to everything, he also had been depressed because of a divorce and he was worried something like that might happen again if he did move in with her – (Zooey and Jim) only knew each other for a short time.
Also, I was looking at some of the other student’s blogs and it reminded me of something I wanted to complain about before. I hate when people walk by me and say “Hey what’s up?” and continue walking. How am I supposed to answer your question when we’re walking in different directions? I always get really uncomfortable when I’m in that situation. If I have time, since I actually care how people are doing, I’ll stop and tell them “what’s up” in my life, and ask them the same. Most of the time people are already away from me by the time their done saying it. For the most part I just say hey or smile when I’m asked that. I know you don’t care. And I understand that’s how people great each other nowadays, but I can’t stand it sometimes.
Just like I get oddly uncomfortable when people write using letters and numbers like “talk 2 u l8r” and all that fun stuff. I did that when I was in middle school, and a few times later on, but that was jokingly. Like…. HW^IAWRN… and then your like WTF? cause it makes no sense! But it means Hey What’s Up(^) I’m At Work Right Now.
WTF. LOL. FML. - Those kind I’m fine with. But when people write like their texting at all times I just think, are you serious? People turned in reports to teachers with there online/texting language that's not right for real work.
I think its funny that my mom texts like that though. “Did U call UR Bro” for example would be the way she would text that, but if it were me I’d say “Did you call your brother?” I don’t know why I do that, but I don’t shorten my texts unless I really have to. I guess that’s why I've gone over my texting limit before though. But now I have unlimited texting, so I do my best to use correct grammar and proper punctuation even in my texting.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
PCP is great!
Let me just start off by clarifying, for those who might stumble upon this blog thinking it might have to do with something naughty and/or PCP, it doesn't. PCP stands for Professional Communication & Presentation, and this blog is for class, and my alliteration name is Naughty Nadia, and no, I'm not naughty, but Nadia is pretty much pronounced naughty-uh.
Anyways, I went to a Career Services workshop the other day, and they were talking about On-Campus Recruiters. Someone asked how they should dress if they had an interview. I half expected them to say to "dress professionally", but they didn't. They just said to be nicely dressed, and the Director for Career services said that the way a person is dressed is either a compliment or an insult to whoever their meeting with. They also suggested to look into the company that they might interview with and see what kind of company they are, for example the CIA and Nickelodeon for example would dress a lot differently (I'd assume), and to dress a step above how we think the recruiters might dress.
They told us about a student who had an interview and had just finished skateboarding and didn't have enough time to go home to clean up. He fortunately had a change of clothes in his car the was more appropriate then the torn up jeans and a sweaty shirt he skated with. He had his interview and the company really liked his work and his personality, but later complained that they work closely together and he smelled.
In class we also talked about the different types of communication and we had to analyze a conversation we wrote out in the serpentine/atomic model. The conversation I wrote out was one I had with my boyfriend one night. I was asleep and he called me in the middle of the night and woke me up, but apparently I said something that had to do with my dream because I thought it was real life. The day before we had the confusing phone conversation, my photo teachers we’re telling us we had to be confident and the courage to walk up to people we didn’t know and ask to photograph them. So in my conversation with my boyfriend, as soon as I answered the phone I told him he needed to get the courage to talk to other people, because that’s what we were talking about in the dream. For about ten minutes or so we both had our own understandings of the conversation. I thought the dream and the conversation in the dream went on to my real life conversation, while he was thinking that I was telling him to talk to other people and see other people as in our relationship. After a while of confusion, and him arguing and telling me he had no idea what I was talking about, I realized that I started that conversation because of something I saw him do while we spoke (in my dream) so it was obvious he didn’t understand what I was talking about because I clearly couldn’t have seen him do something if he’s over 200 miles away. I apologized, but now we know if he calls me in the middle of the night and I’m talking nonsense, it’s probably because I’m still in dreamland.
Intrapersonal Communication means communicating with oneself. I do that, a lot. I often think of what I might say to people, whether I end up saying it or not. I walk around blowing bubbles or thinking of songs or anything that makes me happy, and I get a goofy smile on my face. Then I start to think about how weird I must look to random people that walk passed me, and it makes me laugh, and then I think how stupid I am for laughing and that people might think I’m crazy or something, but I have a good time. I keep laughing at myself, and things that cross my mind. Sometimes I think what I might say to people if they questioned me.
I took a psychology course in High School, and we learned about some physical things people do when they lie, or are uncomfortable in certain situations. And you can tell a lot about a person by their body language when you talk to them. People communicate even if they don’t say a word.
This morning I was in class and we had a speaker come in to talk to us about photography. I had an itch on my face and she asked if she was boring us with her talk. She must have interpreted my actions as being bored and wanting to leave he presentation, but I just had an itch on my face! I was really interested with what she had to say and the work she showed us. Later on I looked up at the time and I thought to myself, if I was the lady then now I would think I was boring the class, but I just didn’t know what time it was. I guess now that I think about it subconsciously I wanted to know the time so I could leave and run some errands I had before having to go to work, but at the moment I guess it’s just a habit of looking at the time. I didn’t want to be disrespectful though or have her think I didn’t want to be there. I’m glad I went to class because now I can give her a call and go with her when she photographs events.
That’s enough for my PCP rant for now. If something exciting happens I’ll keep you posted.
Anyways, I went to a Career Services workshop the other day, and they were talking about On-Campus Recruiters. Someone asked how they should dress if they had an interview. I half expected them to say to "dress professionally", but they didn't. They just said to be nicely dressed, and the Director for Career services said that the way a person is dressed is either a compliment or an insult to whoever their meeting with. They also suggested to look into the company that they might interview with and see what kind of company they are, for example the CIA and Nickelodeon for example would dress a lot differently (I'd assume), and to dress a step above how we think the recruiters might dress.
They told us about a student who had an interview and had just finished skateboarding and didn't have enough time to go home to clean up. He fortunately had a change of clothes in his car the was more appropriate then the torn up jeans and a sweaty shirt he skated with. He had his interview and the company really liked his work and his personality, but later complained that they work closely together and he smelled.
In class we also talked about the different types of communication and we had to analyze a conversation we wrote out in the serpentine/atomic model. The conversation I wrote out was one I had with my boyfriend one night. I was asleep and he called me in the middle of the night and woke me up, but apparently I said something that had to do with my dream because I thought it was real life. The day before we had the confusing phone conversation, my photo teachers we’re telling us we had to be confident and the courage to walk up to people we didn’t know and ask to photograph them. So in my conversation with my boyfriend, as soon as I answered the phone I told him he needed to get the courage to talk to other people, because that’s what we were talking about in the dream. For about ten minutes or so we both had our own understandings of the conversation. I thought the dream and the conversation in the dream went on to my real life conversation, while he was thinking that I was telling him to talk to other people and see other people as in our relationship. After a while of confusion, and him arguing and telling me he had no idea what I was talking about, I realized that I started that conversation because of something I saw him do while we spoke (in my dream) so it was obvious he didn’t understand what I was talking about because I clearly couldn’t have seen him do something if he’s over 200 miles away. I apologized, but now we know if he calls me in the middle of the night and I’m talking nonsense, it’s probably because I’m still in dreamland.
Intrapersonal Communication means communicating with oneself. I do that, a lot. I often think of what I might say to people, whether I end up saying it or not. I walk around blowing bubbles or thinking of songs or anything that makes me happy, and I get a goofy smile on my face. Then I start to think about how weird I must look to random people that walk passed me, and it makes me laugh, and then I think how stupid I am for laughing and that people might think I’m crazy or something, but I have a good time. I keep laughing at myself, and things that cross my mind. Sometimes I think what I might say to people if they questioned me.
I took a psychology course in High School, and we learned about some physical things people do when they lie, or are uncomfortable in certain situations. And you can tell a lot about a person by their body language when you talk to them. People communicate even if they don’t say a word.
This morning I was in class and we had a speaker come in to talk to us about photography. I had an itch on my face and she asked if she was boring us with her talk. She must have interpreted my actions as being bored and wanting to leave he presentation, but I just had an itch on my face! I was really interested with what she had to say and the work she showed us. Later on I looked up at the time and I thought to myself, if I was the lady then now I would think I was boring the class, but I just didn’t know what time it was. I guess now that I think about it subconsciously I wanted to know the time so I could leave and run some errands I had before having to go to work, but at the moment I guess it’s just a habit of looking at the time. I didn’t want to be disrespectful though or have her think I didn’t want to be there. I’m glad I went to class because now I can give her a call and go with her when she photographs events.
That’s enough for my PCP rant for now. If something exciting happens I’ll keep you posted.
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